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On WEDNESDAY, MARCH 10, 7-8pm, the Ad Club held a “Twitter Party” talking about “The Best Advice You Ever Got.” I was the moderator. Four questions were asked over the course of an hour. Over 50 people joined in. The best answers will be used for a coffee table book being put out by the Ad Club for their Women’s Forum Event.
Here are my answers to the questions asked that night:
Q1: Inspired by Women’s Leadership Forum speaker, @ellynletters, book “What I Know Now”: What do you wish you knew when you were younger that you know now?
That learning, just learning for the sheer joy of discovering something new – is awesome.
It’s ok to ignore people who say “you can’t do that.”
That knocking down the walls between professional and personal is really quite awesome.
Q2: What do you see as the greatest struggle for women today?
How to deal with growing old in society which cherishes young, beautiful women.
Helping to solve the universal problems which should be solved: poverty, war, hunger, abuse.
Q3: Who has been the most influential female figure in your life and why?
My daughter(s). Who taught me resilience and courage and joy and surprise and showed me how to love me.
Q4: What’s the best advice you ever got?
The reason men get paid more than women is because women don’t ask for as much pay. Figure out what you’re worth. Ask for it.1
Don’t be the person out there looking for a job, be the person doing something interesting.2
There’s a difference between “networking” and “needworking.” 3
“My philosophy of deal making is this– it’s usually about figuring out how to make the other person rich *first.*”4
Give away the credit.5
Where I got the advice above: 1)Nugget discovered years ago, in some Harvard Business school article. Advice I have thought about before going into every negotiation since that day. 2) I used this line in my shortshort appearance in the movie “Lemonade”. It gets re-quoted quite a bit, so I know it works for people. However, I cannot take credit for originally saying this. I read it online somewhere. If anyone finds the original source, please let me know. 3) Just discovered this on LinkedIn. I’ll take that advice to heart, thanks. 4) Advice from Tom Matlack, former venture capitalist and Good Men Project co-founder. It’s advice that can be used not just for financial deals, but for networking, client relationships, employee/employers. It’s that word “first” that’s important and counterintuitive. 5) Always give away the credit. I was taught that at the start of my career and never looked back. Funnily enough, people recently have been telling me I don’t take enough credit. But then, 5 minutes later, there asking me “so how DO you stay so busy in this economy.” Hmmmm…
Please see The Ad Clubs website and blog for more details on the event. Thanks all who participated!
Yesterday.I’m on Twitter. A Tweet leads me to a blog post written by Hugh MacLeod. On the blog – some great quotes about entrepreneurship. One in particular, strikes a chord: “People buy your product because it helps fill in the narrative gaps in their lives.”
I tweet that line. Someone doesn’t get what it means. I answer flippantly. But what I should have said was: “I can’t explain it in 140 characters.” Let me tell you a story.
Here it is. It’s actually five, short short stories of how brands have “filled in the narrative gaps” of my own life.
Hope this helps.
July, 2002 I am on a train, Zurich to Berlin. A giddy, giggling couple sits across from me. They are trying to conjugate the word “Google”, in French. “Je google, tu google, vous googlez.” The couple laughs. They kiss.I am fascinated. What other brand name do people say*while they are kissing*? I can’t think of one.
Google had been around for a while back then, but I hadn’t heard “Google” used as a verb before that moment. I get back to the US, excitedly exclaim to people: “Google has made it!” They stare at me quizzically.
Flash forward to 2010. Google’s Superbowl commercial. A perfect example of a brand demonstrating how they “fill in the narrative gaps in your life.” It is my story, told in different words.
September 2009Uh-oh. The convertible I had owned for ten years, 200,000 miles, drops dead in the middle of the highway. With the immediate prospect of two children in college looming; two tuition payments and a down economy, I swallow my pride and buy a used Honda Civic on CraigsList. My kids taunt me because it doesn’t even have power windows. I retort back that I am doing my “Civic duty”, saving on gas, saving money so they can go to the college of their choice. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it. My kids stop laughing. I grow to love my new old car.
March 2009But what about pasta?” my fellow Twitterer asks. “Can pasta really fill in narrative gaps or just fill you?”I think about pasta. I think when my kids were young, telling them stories about – yes — pasta. “Strega Nona”, about a pot of spaghetti that bubbles over, consumes a town. I think of my Italian Grandmother, serving her wonderful manicotti to my then fiancé. He eats plate after plate, not knowing it’s only the appetizer. Turns green when she brings out the pot roast. We tell that story forever, even after we’re divorced. I think of how my kids, when stressed and having a horrible day, will instinctively ask me to make Macaroni and Cheese. “Whole wheat macaroni, please, mom”. I think about how they want to know HOW MUCH. HOW MUCH better is wheat than white pasta? HOW MUCH better would the environment be if the packaging didn’t have all that air in it. HOW MUCH would giving back a nickel per box help the world? “Tell me a story, mommy.” But this time, here is what matters.
November 2001The iPod has been out a year, I finally break down and buy one. It immediately and irrevocably changes my life. Songs – in any order I want – play for me – while I am doing housework. While I am at the gym. This is amazing. Chores that I used to feel, at best, ambivalent about, I now am excited over. It’s like I have won the lottery. Apple doesn’t talk about how their products will change your life, they just deliver one that does so. I am the one that tells the story. And when I talk about the iPod to my friends, I don’t say “hey, I just purchased a cool new product.” I say, “The iPod changed my life.”
March, 1999andFebruary 2010It’s a blustery day in March, and I’m in a drafty warehouse. A woman named Stacy Andrus is showing me her pita-chip making machine. Stacy used to own a sandwich cart in Downtown Boston. The lines at her cart grew long and people would get cranky waiting for their sandwiches. So she would roast some leftover pita bread, season it, and give free samples to people standing in line. And those people, now happy happy, would say “HEY. These pita chips are good. You should sell these.” So she did.
But at that moment in the warehouse, it’s noisy and chilly. Stacy invested everything she had into this new machine. And she had underestimated the problems with the bagging process. The seal has to be perfect. It has to be perfect. She’s going on her third year of only making $20,000 in salary with 100 hour workweeks. And she’s worried. Over the din, she shouts the words “It’s harder than people think, you know.” She wants help from me re-designing her bag, but she knows she can’t pay me. Heck, *I* know she can’t pay me. She offers to share with me business plan advice if I will give her packaging advice.
Stacy and I walk to her office, put the current bag on the table, stare at it. The words “Pita Chips” are in large letters. I tell her to reverse the hierarchy, make Stacy’s the biggest thing on the bag. Brand *Stacy* not the generic word “Pita Chips”. And I tell her to put the story, the story of how she started the company, on the bag. I will write that story for her, email it to her the next day. It’s the least I can do. Then I shrug my shoulders, walk out the door. I never see Stacy again.
In December of 2005, Stacy sells her company, Stacy’s Pita Chips, to Pepsico. Sales at the time are $60 million dollars.
Cut to two weeks ago. I’m sitting in my car – er, my Civic — with my daughter Allie. She’s eating from a bag of Stacy’s chips – cinnamon sugar. Suddenly she looks at the bag, shouts, “Hey, Mom, do you know the story of how Stacy’s was founded?” She pauses expectantly, a chip in one hand, the bag in the other. She’s 18 years old. She looks like the bite and smile portion of a television commercial.
“Why, yes, honey.” I reply. “As a matter of fact, I do.”
What do you think? Can you think of a single brand that is important to you that you can’t tell a story about?
When I worked in advertising, my desk was always in disarray. And as aghast as I was about my own clear lack of organization, I’d be equally aghast when I went to an account persons office and saw their neat-as-a-pin desks. How could anyone work that way? Where is everything? Aren’t you *working?* I would wonder.
And then one day I read an article that told me the reason why my desk was messy.
It’s because, as a creative person, I’m constantly looking for two unrelated things to combine.
After all, most creative ideas are not 100% new, but are just ways of taking what’s already out there and combining stuff in new ways.But in order to do that “creatively”, you have to break sets. Combine things that are unexpected, because they are not ordinarily grouped together. It used to be putting a new ending on an old cliché.Then it was combining two unrelated images in Photoshop. Not too long ago, it was someone who forgot that a camera and a phone were two completely different objects.
A messy desk keeps the solution to ‘problem A’ right next to the solution to ‘problem B’. It doesn’t file things away into a drawer labeled “the way it’s always been done.”
The internet is the biggest, messiest desk there is. I like to use that to my advantage.
I started blogging, tweeting and using other social networking/sharing/media sites not too long ago. The experience changed my life, in amazingly powerful ways, a comment that is still met with a great deal of skepticism almost everywhere I go.
But “Social Media” (a phrase that doesn’t even do what it’s really about justice, as most people equate the words “social media” with “getting on Facebook”) has given me the chance to meet brilliant, thoughtful people from all over the world, and talk to them as equals about things that are important to both of us. It’s helped me get involved in projects I never could have dreamed of on my own: producing a book and a movie, getting a cameo role in a movie; having crazy, impassioned conversations about the future of publishing, sexism, war, pornography; gave me a chance to help start not just one but three online publications; taught me how to shoot, edit and produce a hundred small videos; gotten me over my last final fears of technology.But most of all, I discovered the power in helping other people.
So why wouldn’t I want to blog about social media, if it brought about such profound and wonderful changes?
Because that would be like having a blog about email.
What I’d like to do here is to give you insights into the way technology is colliding with human interactions and communication, insights that will cause you to say “wow, I never saw the world that way.” And, at its best, will let you see the actions you can take next to create the profound changes I think we all can make.
I’m sure that sometimes I’ll slip up and talk about social media, because it still is such a passion of mine. But, on the whole, this blog is not a social media blog.
What is it instead?
It’s a “how the way we interact with each other affects the places we go together” blog.
It’s a “let’s think about creative ways to solve problems and then go out and solve them” blog.
It’s a “what if you didn’t think about technology and communication and marketing and friendship and business and art and change as separate things, but ONE thing” blog.
It’s a “where the heck is this all going to lead us 5, 10, 20, 100 years from now?” blog.
It’s a “wow, this is cool and here’s how it might translate into a business model” blog.
It’s a “Think. Do.” blog.
As always, comments are adored, opposing views are welcome, feedback isthoughtfully considered, and spammers are not tolerated.
You can do lots of stuff when you’re thinking of how to create content. Whether it’s for an individual blog or website, or a company one, or a facebook page, or what have you.
You can give people information. You can explain how to do something. You can report on news. You can share other peoples content. And, in fact, I recommend doing all of those things, and doing those with a high degree of journalistic integrity. Be factual, be logical, be true.
But art – art is your own unique view of the world. With art, truth is how you, and you alone, define it.
Ad Headline: The Tsunami Killed 100 Times More People Than 9/11
Guest Post by Jim Mitchem
Last week DDB Brasil was publicly scrutinized for publishing a print ad and :30 television spot for the World Wildlife Foundation that caused quite a stir in the advertising community. There is some speculation as to whether WWF even knew about the campaign or whether DDB executives approved it. The ads were submitted in the 2009 Cannes Lions festival. Fingers will be pointed, people will lose jobs. But this post isn’t about the politics or egos. It’s about the creative development.
The print ad, which won a Cannes, shows a litany of passenger jets taking aim on Manhattan, ala September 11th. The headline talks to the number of deaths caused by an act of terrorism versus the number of deaths caused by natural disasters. The purpose of the ad is put the raw power of our planet into proper perspective. And it works. Kind of. Which is to say that you don’t tug on superman’s cape. You don’t spit into the wind. You don’t pull the mask off the ol’ Lone Ranger. And you damn sure don’t use one of history’s worst spectacles of hate as the backdrop for promoting any company or organization.
My father always said, “It’s easier to run on a fly ball than to run back on one.” This is the one piece of advice from him that I utilize in my work every day. In fact, when I think through any communications problem I tend to run all around the periphery of first - to see how far logic extends in the brain. And frankly, if I were working on this project for WWF, I’d have come up with something similar to what they created. Only, I’d have written it down and shared it with my colleagues as a way to set the limits of periphery. Not as a realistic solution. Why? Because of the rules of cooth. Yes, we’re in advertising, but at some point we must draw the line. DDBs decision to publicly promote (in an advertising contest) this ad as a way to flex its conceptual muscle was proof to me that they lack cooth. The fact that this singular idea was produced beyond the napkin into a fully-flushed out print ad and television spot is shocking. Where is the cooth?
Jim Mitchem has his own provocative blog, Obsessed with Conformity. You can also find him on Twitter @smashadv
When cars were first invented, they didn’t have blinkers. It was only after the fact that people studying the effect that cars had on society said “hey, it looks like people keep crashing every time the person in front of them turns. Too bad we can’t figure out a way for the cars to signal their intention before they turn so that people can stop in time.”
And then they solved the problem.
What they didn’t say was: “what idiot invented the car and didn’t realize you’d crash every time you got out there and made a turn” or “the general public is too stupid to drive cars, they are never going to work” or “cars don’t work, it’s fine when there’s only a few people on the road but they are just not scalable.”
Yet that’s what I see people do when it comes to technology, or social media, or networking platforms. They blame the creators or they blame the people using them or they figure stuff will never be scalable.
Until someone else comes along and solves the problem.
Which just got me thinking that some day I would like to be the type of person that invents the blinker.
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